Heartbreak is something I would never wish upon anyone, even my enemies. But with that being said, it is an interesting and necessary experience that everyone must go through at some point in their life. Anyone that has gone through one or maybe a couple in their lifetime can definitely relate to this. Especially when after all is said and done, the pain is gone and your heart is healed, you may be faced with a dilemma that’ll leave you at a mental, emotional and sometimes spiritual crossroad. What do I mean? Well you may find that the person that inflicted this pain on you might want to come back for a second chance. For what? Now you realize the error of your ways and want to make things right again? That’s understandable however when one is faced with this question it’s not always an easy decision to make. If you have ever been caught in this compromising circumstance, you know what they always say : there’s two sides to every story so here are the two sides to this troubling question.
No one is perfect. That’s a notion that is very well understood and no one can ever escape. In fact, from the time that there is mutual feelings between you and another its all just a big emotional gamble. You know the routine ladies and gents. “The work” starts to kick in, where you’re getting to know each other and the “storytelling” starts. Likes and dislikes are expressed; a little bit of each others past is revealed with the big question in mind, “Is he or she telling me the whole truth?” or “Should I trust him/her?” But it all comes down to the fact that you’ll probably never know the whole truth at first. However, with feelings being nourished it’s easy to give in with hopes that something good can come out of the relationship. So you choose to gamble with your heart, trust in your partners every word and take in those same words as your own. However, the second your partner deeply wronged you, things will never be the same. In fact, doubt becomes your greatest companion and with that being said, I say “no!” to giving your partner a second chance after they’ve broken your heart.
So you’ve given your partner the benefit of the doubt and defended him/her to the world because you want to trust your partner. No one wants to believe that the person they care about would hurt them and no one wants to get hit by that reality. That reality being that feeling where you feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. Come on Spitters, anyone who’ve been in a monogamous relationship knows what i’m talking about, its not a fun feeling. Chris Brown said it right, it does feel like a heart attack. So now your partner has broken your heart, truth is out in the light and it all comes down to one big question, “How much are you willing to take?” You have to wonder are you willing to possibly go through that heart attack again? Better yet, can you truly ever trust your partner again? If your heart is not at ease every time your partner is not with you, the relationship will almost never be at ease. There will be an imbalance in the chemistry between lovers. It’s possible to salvage something real from the smoke because like I said before no one is perfect and people make mistakes. That success rate is 1 in million; It doesn’t apply to every situation, and it’s highly subjective.
All I’m saying is things tend to get ugly in these situations. I say without trust and understanding in a relationship, a relationship does not exist. I takes one to truly know themselves to know how to accurately handle such a heavy situation but at times even in love one can easily lose their way and lose sight of themselves. Hey, you just might find yourself becoming that girlfriend/boyfriend you’ve always resented, you know, the one that is constantly on investigation mode. One day you just might wake up to find yourself in an emotional prison exactly where Mimi from the hit reality show, Love and Hip Hop is sitting in with her pimp for a man, Stevie J. Guys,
Im sure there is a female equivalent for Stevie J out there. Is that for you?