I think I speak for most men when I say, we like to go in attack mode when we really admire a woman. Like many sports, dating also involves continuous interaction of offense and defense. However, when you make the decision to go with a strong offense, you risk leaving your defenses vulnerable. You as the initiator should also know how to have a consistent balance between the two. With that being said, here are a few tips to keep in mind when you are actively pursuing a woman who has caught your attention.

Keep Calm and Scout Well

Pursuing a woman is like looking for a job: You have to read the job description first before you apply. Do your research on the girl. It doesn’t hurt to ask around but know that you will hear both the good and the bad. Ultimately it is up to you to decide what information is reliable or not. Find out the obvious things that she like and doesn’t like so that when you start “spitting” your game you’ll have an advantage over the next guy.

2. Don’t Flaunt What you Don’t Have

After you’ve done your “research”, the next tip is to check yourself and see if you “qualify”. Guys have to remember that you cannot get every girl you see. That’s just causing an embarrassment upon yourself when you do that. There is a difference between confidence and cocky. This means you must know your strengths and weaknesses. Only then will you know what “job to apply for”. Girls talk so they’ll find out if you are telling the truth or not from their friends anyway.

3. Personality over Physical Appearance

One of the main mistakes men do is that they allow a female’s physical appearance to overshadow everything else. Make sure she has a personality that complements yours or else, that magic from her beauty will eventually wear off. Relationships last longer when there is more than just physical attraction.

4. Make Your Wants The Same As Your Needs

I always say that there is a difference between what you need and what you want. If these two are not parallel, then your instinct will not match your intention. In doing so, you are more likely to be genuine and less likely to become that stereotype player. In return, she will admire your advances.

Hopefully these 4 tips will help you in pursuing the woman you are looking for. Remember, not every female that you pursue will end up being the right woman for you. Applying these rules will be like having a filter. Of course it isn’t as clear-cut as I have made it seem but it sure will make your process a bit easier.