Happiness is the ultimate gratification we all strive for in life. So we work hard in achieving the lifestyle we want, with the hopes that through all the mayhem, and the hardships of dating, we could find the right person to marry and share our lives with. We all have our own idea of happiness. However, what determines the characteristics of happiness or a successful relationship solely depends on the choices we make.

For example, most people make the choice to rush into marriage with eager goals to be happy, but instead they find disappointments. Even while being madly in love, you can’t truly know and understand a person unless time is invested. It’s a known fact that many of us gamble with, but what’s the rush? Whether you’re a man or a women you’re complicated. We all have our standards, our plans, different ideas that makes it easy to find incompatibility. The goal is to get to the finish line content, so what’s the point of getting to the finish line with overwhelming feelings of disappointment?

Let’s use Kim Kardashian and Kris Humpries’ 72 day old marriage for an example. As quick as it started is as quick it ended. Kim, who aims to entertain her fans with the life of glitz, glamour, success and “happiness”, falls madly in lust with Kris, a pro b-ball player. They jumped the broom to disaster neither knowing what their marriage life had in store.

Another belief most people have is marrying for status leads to happiness. When did money determine love? Does money bring ultimate happiness? A high status marriage will have the same mishaps as any other relationship. A successful relationship does not depend on financial security. If it did the divorce rates among celebs would be at a lower percentage.

When two people are happy in being together, a couple develops pride in each other. If you truly admire your partner its natural and right to want the world to know how you feel about your lover. It’s another story if you live for the show instead of all the genuine and real aspects of what makes a relationship a real one. Being in a relationship is about the two involved, the second you worry about what everyone else has to say about it, “love” is already a shipwreck. So why do it? Just to say you did? I call that time wasted.

We all have different ideas, motives and expectations for our lives. We all want to be happy but rushing never takes a person to happiness. Most times it only leads us to the finish line empty handed.

It’s the choices we make to achieve a relationship that truly determines the characteristics of what you really end up with. Don’t you agree? We should only move smart rather than hastily, otherwise we’ll find ourselves in a Kim K and Kris situation, a huge waste of time.