It’s like a ping pong ball going back and forth in your mind. Your heart is telling you one thing, your mind another. You know you love this person to the depths of your soul but for the sake and salvation of your soul, you know you have to let them go. I mean it’s not like you don’t love them or wouldn’t do anything for them but you have to realize that you need to love yourself more if you’re going to have some sort of peace in your life again. What am I talking about? It’s knowing when to let the other person go.
It’s a very tough decision when you’re faced with that situation but things haven’t been going right with your partner as of late and you can’t seem to find the solution to it. You two are arguing more, spending less time together and even the sight of him/her triggers this unsettling feeling in your stomach. When 1 of these things are happening to you, you need to step back and re-evaluate your relationship before both of you end up walking away bruised and scarred. If all 3 are happening at once, then it’s time to learn how to say goodbye to your partner.
He/She Has Been Distant Lately
The sweet charming person you met in the beginning who would call or text you constantly just because, barely checks up on you. Now you’re the one initiating conversation between the two of you and when that happens, the conversation is not for long. When you 2 used to be able to sit on the phone for hours and talk about everything under the sun, they barely respond to you when you ask a simple question as to how their day went. Not too long ago he/she could barely keep their hands off you with the play fights that had you in tears from laughter. Now he/she barely acknowledges your presence in the room and those laughter has now turned into tears. Oh what to do? Most females would lash out and think that the guy is maybe cheating on them. This in most cases might be true however when you attack the person like that, all it’s going to do is have them be defensive. I’ve said this numerous times that the best way to approach a situation is by calmly reminding the person what they used to do that made them your king or queen in your eyes. Play the nostalgia role. Don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, I remember when you used to send me those good morning texts. It always put a smile on my face before I went to school or work” or whatever it was they did that made you feel that much closer and special to them. Sometimes a reminder of how the little things make a huge impact on how you view them. Yelling at them or accusing them of cheating will not get you anywhere.
More fights and arguments
There is no such thing as a healthy relationship if there are no arguments or fights. Now when there’s too much arguing, it may be time to back away. Its normal for you two to be mad at each other but not to the point where one of you abuses that and takes the argument to a whole other level. For example, just because he didn’t call you back when he said he was or he would rather hang out with his boys as opposed to you doesn’t give you the right to flirt with another man as retaliation. The whole tit for tat game people play in relationships is silly. All it really does is lead your little fight into a bigger fight and escalate into something unforeseen by either of you. Besides if you feel the need to retaliate to your partner, then something is not right. Also if the fights escalates into physical abuse, then you need to walk away. No man should put their hands on you under any circumstance. They wouldn’t dare put their hands on their mother so why should be an exception? Your life is not worth it. Run away from it.
When you’re emotionally exhausted
At this point, you feel as if you’ve reached your breaking point. Emotionally, you’ve hit a brick wall and no matter how you try to comprehend the situation, you keep drawing a blank. This is when you know you’ve officially become emotionally exhausted. When questions like these, courtesy of Adele, run through your mind constantly, its time to step back. “Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements? Even if it leads nowhere or would it be a waste? Even if I knew my place should I just leave it there, should I give up or should I keep chasing pavements?” Do you want to invest all of your energy into chasing someone that does not want to be caught? The decision is up to you.
Ultimately the decision is really up to you. Everyone has their breaking points when it comes to certain issues pertaining to their lives. Some people might not tolerate certain behaviors from another individual for long while others will wait and hope that things will get better. However you need to decide what will benefit you, not the other person, in the long run. You have to stop the ping pong game that’s going on within your mind. Free yourself of such thoughts and that person and see what happens. Take a break from them and the situation and see what happens. Remove yourself from the picture and see if the effort you’re putting into the relationship is being reciprocated. If not then as painful as it is, you have to move on. Know your worth and realize you deserve more than what you’re putting up with. Never settle for less. Know that and own it.