What Happens When You Are Single For Too Long?

I get this question too often and usually when I do people tend to ask as if they are going through some life change. First off, what is “too long” supposed to mean? Is it a few months or a few years? If you notice yourself changing because you have been single for some time it’s because you are.

When you’re in a relationship it becomes all about the other person once love hits. But when you are single you can begin to feel alone and loneliness may take over. When you are alone you are stuck with yourself, forced to learn what makes you happy outside of a relationship.

People tend to use this as an excuse to constantly party and engage in heavily drinking. Don’t become an alcoholic just because you’re single. Don’t bleed the bank partying every weekend because you’re single. For those of us who can handle our new found independence well, I caution you also.

There is a certain luxurious freedom that comes with being single; you are free to do whatever you like, come and go as please, and you answer to no one. But indulging in that independence for too long can change someone, and usually not for the better. Don’t get stuck in your bad habits making it impossible to compromise in your future relationship.

Furthermore, don’t be embarrassed to tell people how long you’ve been single. If a long gap in between dating is enough to scare someone off then why would you want to be with a person like that? A real person will stick around in hopes of getting to know you better and hopefully solve the mystery as to why you’ve been single for so long.

You’ll be surprised at the stuff you find out about yourself while you are single. We need to get out of this mentality that everyone becomes bitter after being single for an extended period of time. You don’t get bitter. You just get more awesome.

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