I will never understand why people rush into marriage for all the wrong reasons. So many feel their “dating life” has an expiration date or once you reach a certain age you have to start looking for that person to spend “forever” with. Did/does society etch in our minds what our timeline of life should be? Do we all follow this pattern when our friends start getting married and having children we think it’s time we should as well? Who made these rules? Who set these standards?
Believe it or not marriage is SUPPOSE to last forever. People forget that nowadays and get caught up in the title of husband and wife. Just because you’ve been with someone for a certain amount of years it does not always equal marriage. There are so many factors you don’t think about or simply aren’t prepared for. You absolutely need to be 100% sure that you two have an unbreakable bond before placing a ring on anyone’s finger.
Also, no one really has in depth discussions about anything anymore. I’m not referring to classic questions such as “Do you want kids” or “What do you want to be doing career wise in five years”. I’m talking about “What are your thoughts on disciplining children? Do you want your kids to have a public or private education?” I know guys might see this and roll their eyes because these seem like nagging questions.
Well, if you are that guy reading this than marriage is not for you, at least not right now. If you are not ready do not bend or break. This is the rest of your life and just because your partner seems ready its fine for you not to feel ready.
Thinking that you are ready to spend forever with someone could be one of love’s little tricks. Never rush in and please do not gamble with the rest of your life. There are so many life phases one goes through that can be impossible to manage along with marriage. Take your time when making this decision…it’s only the rest of your life.