Let’s talk about sex buddies! Friends with benefits. Booty calls. Casual sex. There are many names to describe this commonly used arrangement. FWB is now more than ever becoming a debatable topic worldwide. Does it work? Is it worth it? These questions often come up and its these same questions that has people torn in two about it all. Well casual sex automatically sounds like the next best thing, especially if you’re not looking to invest emotions. Two individuals coming to terms to have sex with no pressure, and no emotions and be friends after all is said and done.

First why do singles go into these booty calls? Loneliness or the desire to create something safe but more than just friends, according to Kate Billingsley, a certified relationship expert. It’s called having your cake and eating it too. It’s a way out of sleeping around and at the same time reaching that sexual healing with loose ties. The truth is men and most women have a problem with having a physical attachment without emotions. Guys are more likely to function and stay to the terms while women are more likely to get emotionally attached to the guy. Why is that? Well according to Billingsley, these types of relationships are hard to work for most women because of the bonding hormone Oxytocin being released during an orgasm; it’s the same hormone a woman releases during child birth. So let’s iron this out, if a woman has repeated great sex with your partner, ladies you’re bound to develop emotions. Casual sex works against the dynamics of the hormones in a woman’s body. How disappointing…

FWB are in fact dead ended because eventually one of the two will want more leaving the arrangement unbalanced with more than either of them initially bargained for. Casual sex with the same person can never be long term. I say once emotions begin to get high, pulling away is definitely the solution. Yea, easier said than done, especially when good sex and emotions are involved, but as a female, pulling away is ideal for two reasons: First, doing that will give you more of a clear mind to know what you really want and to get your emotions under control. Secondly, most men like the chase, or the challenge, so taking time away from each other gives both parties air to breathe and an opportunity to end things on a good note. Most men confuse longing for an individual with having feelings for that person, but if genuine, real emotions develop on his part, there may be an opened window. Otherwise walk away!

So do I think casual sex work? Yes, it gets the job done but like everything else there is an expiration date.